What is EFT?
EFT stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy, a method of couples therapy developed by Sue Johnson.
EFT is attachment-based.
EFT was developed as a practical application of attachment theory, a robust area of research that, for over 60 years, has studied how people form and maintain intimate relationships. We know how crucial strong relationships are to human happiness, and how devastating it is when you and your partner are caught in a cycle of disconnection.
EFT stops the same-old arguments.
Many couples find themselves having basically the same heated exchange over and over, but nothing gets better. It seems like every interaction devolves into both of you feeling hurt and alone. EFT offers a roadmap out of that negative cycle. An EFT therapist can help clarify what is happening for each partner. We can slow things down and safely explore what needs you are both trying to communicate, and how your mutual desires for connection are likely being misinterpreted.
EFT creates connection.
Identifying a cycle is an important first step, but the real change happens when your EFT therapist guides you in a new way of being vulnerable with each other. As we become aware of what’s going on under the surface-level emotions, you and your partner will have opportunities to practice communicating and responding to one another at a deeper level.
EFT is experiential.
This method of therapy is anything but boring because it utilizes the intensity of live emotions. Rather than trying to control or suppress strong feelings, we practice tuning in and listening respectfully to them. Emotions are the powerful communicators for our deepest needs, so we pay close attention to them!
EFT is effective.
It is backed by over 30 years of outcome data, and is considered a gold standard for evidence-based practice in the field of couples therapy. We have seen this approach transform marriages and families. We are passionate about it, and we want to share it with you. Learn more about emotionally focused therapy or connect with us below.
By Guest Writer: Noelle Heffley, M.S.
